Sexual Gratification and My Pictures
There is a common question I get that goes something like this:
"Don’t you find it disturbing that there are people out there who masturbate to your pictures?"
And the short answer is no, no I don’t. I do not create my images for the purpose of being used for sexual gratification, that is true. But does that mean I am offended, hurt, disgusted, or creeped out when they are used as such? Absolutely not. There is a simple truth to the release and distribution of creative work and that is that once you put it out there, it’s out there and you have essentially given up your creative control. When I give you a picture of my body, it doesn’t come with a legal contract saying that you will use it only and entirely for educational purposes and never pursue any sort of sexual arousal from it. Though I may give it to you because I want to tell you something - I want to share a story about something - what you choose to do with it is ultimately your choice alone and it’s out of my hands. Put it on the fridge next to a picture of your childhood best friend or jack off to it before you go to work. Once I give my creation to the world I relinquish my control and regardless of my purpose or intent, your interpretation is yours and yours alone.
I am fully aware that my pictures can be perceived as sexual. I’m sharing intimate, graphic pictures of my body with the internet into a community already teeming with sex. I also don’t feel that it’s necessarily a bad thing if they’re perceived as such. Sex and education are not mutually exclusive. Arousal and appreciation can go hand in hand. An appreciation for what I say tangled with an inexplicable desire to fuck me do not have to be at odds with each other. Sexual arousal is not a sin or a threat or a slap in the face of my purpose. Sexual arousal is human, it’s natural, it’s going to happen no matter what I do and I don’t view that as a bad thing. The world of human perception and interpretation are so wonderful, incredible and complicated that there are undoubtedly people out there who fantasize about licking the period blood from my legs while others fantasize about being my best friend and having a chat over coffee from viewing the same exact image.
Sexuality isn’t evil. Seeing sex within something does not mean that thing is dirty, compromised, wrong or distasteful. Sexuality can live within things, it doesn’t have to be an either/or. Because I share my body with you for the purpose of sharing my stories and my views does not mean that I am upset if your view of my creation becomes saturated with sexual gratification. I don’t feel upset or dirty or disgusted. I don’t feel that compromises or cheapens my intent. The idea that sexuality is so demonized and that people need to remove all of those thoughts from their head to appreciate what I’m saying is simply bizarre. I’m a beautiful woman sharing intimate and naked photos of myself on the internet and to assume that people won’t find arousal and sexual appeal in that is simply naive.
I am comfortable with the knowledge that there are people out there who masturbate to my images in the same way that I’m comfortable with the knowledge that there are people out there who cry when they read the story that accompanies them. There are people out there who are upset by what I do, who love what I do, who don’t give a damn about what I do and who are aroused by what I do. In my humble opinion, not one of those reactions is evil, wrong, disgusting, immoral or a reflection on me having done a poor job on my end. They are all valid, complicated, intertwined human emotions and I feel no shame in being a catalyst for their release.
You have a beautiful mind and an enlightened view of life that is light years beyond most of us. Glad I found your postings and writings. It’s like finding water in a desert.